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Alex Jones joins Zoe Ball for a Dig It special, answering listener questions about parenting dynamics, perimenopause, and relationship quirks. The conversation covers good cop/bad cop parenting roles, navigating perimenopause information overload, and household frustrations. They share personal experiences about setting boundaries with children, managing symptoms, and the challenges of domestic life with humor and honesty.
Good Cop, Bad Cop Parenting Dynamics
Sarah writes in feeling stuck as the 'bad cop' parent while her husband gets to be the fun one, always saying yes to the kids. Alex relates deeply to this dynamic with her husband Charlie, explaining how she's often the one enforcing bedtimes and meal schedules while he does the exciting activities. The discussion explores how this pattern emerges in many households and introduces the concept of a 'Yes Day' as a way to balance the dynamic.
- Sarah feels like the bad cop parent while her husband is the fun one who always says yes, leaving her to deal with tantrums
- Alex identifies as bad cop in her relationship with Charlie, who lets kids stay up late while she enforces bedtime
- Kids become savvy at playing parents off against each other, figuring out who to ask for what
- Single parents face the challenge of being both good cop and bad cop simultaneously
- The 'Yes Day' concept from a Jennifer Garner movie offers a solution where kids set activities and rules within boundaries
" If it was up to him, honestly, the kids would be up all night. He's like, just let them fall asleep with us. And I'm like, no, that is just taking the easy option. I'm sorry. They have to have a bedtime. "
" I was quite boundaryless in my former years. I tried to teach Woody, it's like, it's all right to have some boundaries, Woody. It keeps you safe, because otherwise, if there aren't any, you just end up damaging. "
" Charlie often labels it like this well I'm the laid-back one and you're and you're highly strung and I'm like wow wow thank you for that "
Perimenopause Information Overload
Louise, 40, writes about feeling bombarded with perimenopause content on social media despite not experiencing symptoms yet. Both hosts discuss their experiences with perimenopause - Zoe wishes she'd known more before it hit her hard, while Alex admits she's in denial about whether she's experiencing it. They address the challenge of balancing awareness with not becoming overwhelmed by information, and discuss managing phone algorithms that intensify this bombardment.
- Louise feels constantly bombarded with perimenopause content on social media despite being symptom-free at 40
- Zoe was the first of her friends to experience perimenopause and wished she'd had more knowledge beforehand
- Alex threw milk across the kitchen and wondered if the rage signaled perimenopause starting
- Having a baby at 44 may have confused Alex's body, making it unclear if she's perimenopausal
- Phone algorithms can be manipulated by saying random words to change what content appears
- Perimenopause can start as early as 33 or much later, with vastly different symptom experiences
" I had no idea what perimenopause was until it happened to me. And I was quite deep in it. And I wish I'd known a little bit more before because I was the first of my girlfriends no one else had been through it "
" Am I in denial? Yes, slightly. Should I be on HRT? Probably, says all my friends. But I don't want to do that because then it means for me having a coil "
" When I threw a four-pinter of milk across the kitchen the other day, I thought, oh, my God, here we are. The rage has started. "
" I now do with my phone is I'll just say loads of random things at it sometimes and so it changes my algorithm I don't know if that works because if you're getting bombarded with menopause stuff you know just say a load of stuff into your phone like I don't know greek tragedies clogs "
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