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In this episode of How to Be a Better Human, host Chris Duffy joins poet Sarah Kay to visit writer and cultural critic Hanif Abdurraqib in his beloved hometown of Columbus, Ohio. Through visits to local record shops, sneaker stores, parks, and bookstores, Hanif demonstrates what it means to truly be from a place and build meaningful community. He shares personal stories about homelessness, generosity, and the power of offering yourself freely to others, revealing how home is created through care, attention, and the simple act of surrendering our time to love others better.
The Power of Community in Crisis
Hanif opens by reflecting on how local community provides grounding when the world feels overwhelming. During a recent power outage in his neighborhood, instead of isolating, neighbors gathered together in a gazebo to check on immediate needs. This experience illustrates his philosophy that recognizing ourselves as connected to others, rather than isolated individuals, is essential to avoiding the trap of individualism and building genuine community bonds.
- During a neighborhood power outage, residents gathered at a central gazebo to support each other and assess immediate needs
- Stepping outside and seeing evidence of other people's lives reflected back prevents falling into individualism
" If I were to say I am just like a small speck in this grand universe, I would very easily and quickly fall into this individualism. Instead of me saying, well, I step outside of my house and I see either a person or I see the results of a person's living reflected directly to me. "
Building Relationships Through Shared Curiosity
At Spoonful Records, his favorite vinyl shop in Columbus, Hanif explains why this place matters so much to him. Unlike shopping alone while touring, where he'd only satisfy his own taste, having relationships with the staff who know him deeply means they save discoveries for him and engage with genuine curiosity. This dynamic demonstrates how offering yourself freely to others creates a reciprocal ecosystem where people hold onto things that might delight each other.
- Record shopping while touring was isolating, limiting Hanif to only his own tastes
- Staff at Spoonful Records remember his interests and save special finds for him
- The shop exemplifies how people who know you with depth and curiosity enhance your life
" If I offer myself up freely and eagerly to others, it informs our collective, our shared interests in each other, so that when we come across something that we think might delight the other person, we hold on to it for a while until they reenter our lives again. "
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