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YouTuber Michelle Khare shares her journey from fear-avoidant child of immigrants to daredevil creator, performing extreme stunts like hanging from a C-130 aircraft and escaping Houdini's water torture cell. She explains how embracing an amateur's mindset and reframing fear as information rather than a stop sign enabled her to accomplish seemingly impossible challenges, from earning a black belt in 90 days to performing Tom Cruise-level stunts.
From Safety to Risk: The Birth of a Daredevil
Michelle introduces herself as someone who was definitely not born a daredevil, but rather as a child of cautious immigrants who prioritized safety and success. Her early life was marked by extreme risk aversion, from quitting cheer team when someone got hurt to only rebelling by changing fonts on science fair projects. This safe but lonely existence led her to take her first big risk by joining a cycling club, where she discovered the freedom to fail without consequence and eventually won nationals as an underdog.
- Michelle performs dangerous stunts like hanging from a C-130 aircraft, previously only done by Tom Cruise
- Raised by immigrant parents who sacrificed everything for her safety and success
- In seventh grade, quit cheer team when someone else got hurt, showing extreme risk aversion
- Joined a cycling club as first big risk, discovering freedom to fail without consequence
- Won nationals in cycling two years later by taking a risk and sprinting ahead as an average ranked racer
" I was not born a daredevil. I was born a child of immigrants who sacrificed everything to give me a safe, secure, and a chance at a successful life. They gave up so much for me just to exist, so why would I ever risk that? "
" it was the first time I had seen success or won something by genuinely just having fun. So I thought to myself, how much of life had I been missing out on because of fear? "
The Amateur's Mindset: The Secret to Rapid Learning
Michelle breaks down the learning journey, explaining why beginners often progress faster than expected through what she calls the amateur's mindset. In the beginning, learning feels fun and progress comes quickly because amateurs are willing to ask questions, look silly, and take risks. However, most people quit when they hit the inevitable plateau where learning starts feeling like work. The key is maintaining that amateur mindset even as you improve, staying curious and fearless about making mistakes.
- In the rapid adaptation phase, amateurs see faster progress than professionals because they're willing to ask questions, look silly, and take risks
- Learning plateaus occur when we gain experience and start self-judging as we try, causing many to give up
- Success comes from finding ways to stay in the amateur's mindset even as you improve
" Amateurs often see progress faster than professionals in this rapid adaptation phase. We have the willingness to ask questions, to look silly trying, to take risks. So it's not luck. I think it's an amateur's mindset, knowing there's only room for improvement. "
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