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Renowned divorce attorney James Sexton shares candid insights about prenups, marriage, divorce, and relationships. Drawing from years of high-profile cases, Sexton explains why prenups are essential, how child support works in celebrity divorces, the hidden financial realities behind wealth, and offers profound advice on maintaining lasting relationships by paying attention to 'the you, the me, and the we.'
Why Everyone Already Has a Prenup (Whether They Know It or Not)
Sexton introduces the conversation by reframing how people think about prenups. He argues that every married person already has a prenup—it's just written by the government rather than by the couple themselves. He challenges couples to consider whether politicians who won popularity contests should dictate the rules of the most legally significant thing they'll do in their lives, or whether the two people who love each other should create their own rules.
- Every married person has a prenup - either written by the government or by the couple themselves
- Politicians who create default marriage laws won popularity contests and change constantly
- Marriage is the most legally significant thing you'll do other than die, yet no one explains the rules in advance
- The rules can be changed by people who don't know you based on who won a popularity contest
- Having a prenup conversation is a healthy exercise for couples
" Every single person who gets married has a prenup. It's either written by the government or it's written by the two people who love each other more than the other eight billion people in the world. "
" You're signing up for the most legally significant thing you're ever going to do other than die with a rule set that no one ever explains to you in advance and that can be changed by people who don't know you based on who won a popularity contest. "
The Hard Conversations That Strengthen Relationships
Sexton discusses the value of difficult conversations in relationships, comparing the prenup discussion to other challenging moments couples face. He emphasizes that while hard conversations are uncomfortable in the moment, successfully navigating them creates a sense of accomplishment and strengthens the bond between partners. He shares how people have told him that discussing prenups led to meaningful conversations with their partners.
- People regularly stop Sexton on the streets saying they had great conversations about prenups after watching the previous interview
- Hard conversations feel awkward in the moment, but create a 'look at us, we did it' feeling afterward
- The hard thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing
" I think there's real value in that. I think that, again, the hard thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing. "
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