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Jay Shetty and Radhi Devlukia discuss the growing epidemic of male loneliness, exploring why 15% of U.S. men report having no close friends and examining the barriers men face in forming deep emotional connections. They discuss the differences between how men and women build friendships, the importance of vulnerability, and practical strategies for combating loneliness through intentional relationship-building.
The Male Loneliness Crisis: Understanding the Statistics
The conversation opens with alarming statistics about male loneliness in America. The data reveals that 15% of U.S. men reported having no close friends in 2021, up dramatically from just 3% in 1990. Only 13% of men have 10 or more close friends, down from 33% in 1990, and one in four men under 35 report feeling lonely. This loneliness was officially declared a national epidemic by the U.S. Surgeon General in 2023.
- 15% of U.S. men reported having no close friends in 2021, up from 3% in 1990
- Only 13% of men have 10+ close friends, down from 33% in 1990
- One in four U.S. men under 35 report feeling lonely
- Loneliness was declared a national epidemic by U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy in 2023
" Men are really speaking about it but we're just not listening. That's what that's really what it is. People are somehow talking about it but we're not listening. "
How Men and Women Build Friendships Differently
Radhi observes a fundamental difference in how men and women connect with friends. Women typically engage in activities that create space for conversation—getting nails done, having coffee—where talking is the primary activity. Men, however, tend to connect through activities like sports, watching games, or going to the gym, which don't naturally create space for emotional conversations. This structural difference in socializing patterns may contribute to why men struggle more with forming deep emotional bonds.
- Men often travel in packs and connect through activities like sports and games
- Women's activities (coffee, nails) create natural space for conversation and emotional connection
- Men have to make an added effort to find time to talk before or after activities
" I have to make an added effort as a man who does not feel lonely. I have to make an added effort to spend time with my friends. "
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