Summary
Overview
Lucy Hale opens up about her journey to sobriety, self-acceptance, and finding authentic happiness after years of struggling with alcohol addiction and self-sabotage. The Pretty Little Liars star discusses how she spent over a decade battling with drinking, the shame she carried about her past, and how getting sober at 32 transformed her life. She reflects on dating, relationships, freezing her eggs, the pressures of fame in her 20s, and why she finally feels like her real life is just beginning at 37.
Living Authentically and Finding Grounding
Lucy discusses why this moment in her life feels like the perfect time for this conversation, explaining that she's finally grounded and at peace with who she is. She reflects on how her life doesn't look the way she imagined compared to societal expectations, but she's learning to release those narratives. She describes herself as a "late bloomer" who has achieved her dreams but is now dreaming bigger, while working on not comparing herself to others.
- Lucy turned 37 two days before the interview and feels like her real life is just beginning
- She simultaneously feels 18 and 85, having accomplished her dreams but needing to dream bigger
- Her life doesn't look the way she thought it would compared to others her age, but it looks better in many ways
- She's working on not comparing herself to anyone else as she gets older
" I feel like my life is just beginning because I'm able to sleep at night now. I'm able to forgive myself, to love myself. I'm able to show up every day, present, clear-headed. I love my work more than ever. "
" I'm like, are people also feeling things this intensely? Or it's my Scorpio moon. Then I learned about a Scorpio moon. And I was like, oh, I've just always had a sense of intensity about me that I used to really dislike. "
Childhood and Suppressing Emotions
Lucy reflects on her childhood, describing herself as an inherently different person who always felt like an outsider. She discusses how she was labeled an "emotional" and "difficult" child in the 90s when girls were expected to just "be good and smile." This led her to suppress her intense emotions and feelings, which she now recognizes as a core part of who she is. She emphasizes the importance of facing yourself and being brutally honest.
- Lucy always felt different and like the black sheep of her family, never knowing where her gifts came from
- She was labeled an emotional and difficult child, which made her suppress her intensity
- Growing up in the 90s, little girls were told to be good, smile, and be polite without space to truly be themselves
- She believes we all have a soul blueprint with specific lessons to learn through different life paths
" I've always had that feeling as well. Like I knew I was, I didn't know if I was like destined for greatness, but I knew I was destined to be different. "
" Comparison is going to snatch you right out of your own alignment. "
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